4 Things to Stop Doing Right Now

If we asked you if you would like to be happier, you would look at us like we had lost the plot! “Of course!” you would profess.  And we believe you! But the fact is that we know you’re doing stuff day in and day out that just gets in the way of your happiness. Take a seat and let’s break it down…

It’s a fact, sometimes we can get in our own way. We all do it. It sounds bonkers because, well why would you? But we do. Because over the years we have formed lots of bad habits. Habits that don’t enrich us in any way. Habits that keep us stuck in repeating negative patterns. Habits that are so insidious that you don’t even know that they’re there. So they eat away at your self confidence bit by bit - and then one day, you notice a big chunk of you is missing but you’re probably clueless as to how it happened.

They all have their shit together…

4 THINGS TO STOP DOING RIGHT NOW…

1. Comparing yourself to others 

You take the kids to school and you marvel at how some of the other Mam’s have makeup on, hair done and they’re all serene and looking fabulous. You’re stood in your messy bun, still purple from the gym, you have a hole in your t-shirt and you feel like a fishwife from screeching at the kids threatening through clenched teeth to ‘Hurry up!’. 

You sit in the big meeting at work, in awe at how everyone else seems to know exactly what to say and how to say it and they understand every single abbreviation that gets spouted out. 

You see online how her that started her business at the same time as you has clearly got way more clients and is making a shed load of money because it says so on her posts.

How come they all have their shit together and you are running to a stand still..? 

Easy - they haven’t. You’re just seeing what you want to and writing all kinds of stories up about it. They’re probably looking at you and thinking the same thing. The fact is you don’t know. So stop worrying about anything other than what you think of yourself!

2. Compromising on your dreams

When did you make the decision to work 50hrs a week (not counting the dozen hours outside of work where you ‘just check’ emails) for a reasonable salary for a job that’s ‘ok’?

When did it start happening, that when people ask you how you are, you answer after taking a deep breath, “I’m ok” through a smile that never reaches your eyes - and everyone seems to think that’s good enough?

When did you stop dreaming about how you would love to spend your day and how exciting life would be?

Whenever that was for you - it doesn’t matter...but don’t let another day go by where you accept that ‘ok’ is good enough for you. You were born for more. You were born for joy.  

So work out where you aren’t feeling the joy and make the decision right now that enough is enough!

3. Talking crap about yourself to yourself

This is a biggie. You do this all-of-the-time..! You would punch someone in the kisser if they spoke to you how you speak to yourself.

Tune in to what you’re saying and just for a few days, write it down. Don’t dilute it - write it exactly as you’re saying it. Then make a concerted effort every time you hear yourself doing it to smile, nod, acknowledge you’re doing ‘that thing’ again and tell yourself you’re fabulous and you’ve got this.

4. Accepting less than your worth

We are always so bloody grateful aren’t we? When we get a pay rise or a promotion. Or someone notices that you’ve been working 60hrs a week for no extra pay and says ‘thank you’. Or the kids actually tidy up their own crap for once!

We aren’t saying that we shouldn’t feel gratitude by the way - we are all in on that. But being grateful without being so accommodating all of the time, without being so compliant to what everyone else needs before we consider what we need.

You got the promotion and the pay rise because you bloody well earned it!  You got the thanks because you earned it. The kids tidied up because...well maybe you just hit lucky!

But you get the picture.

You deserve the good stuff so don’t feel like someone is doing you a favour!

So which one of these applies to you? And yes, we know you will be screaming “ALL!” but choose just one and work on that. 

One decision, one action and one little win at a time.

You got this.

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